so i have all kinds of crazy people ringing my bell, looking in the windows and trying to open my door. it seems once a house forecloses, it becomes a free for all for people to attempt to look at it, even though i live here!!!!!
combine that with a fear that psycho girl is still after me, and my nerves are shot.
i went out and my alarm went off, central station called me. i went home and the police came. nothing had happened, but i alerted the police to my situation and they are going to patrol the area.
the worst part is that this whole foreclosure mess is h's fault, h's problem and he never feels the affects of it.
me: 31 H:29 Son:5 m:8 years in november t:10 years first bomb: 10/06 moved home: 3/08 out again 5/08 ow bomb: 4/08, since summer 06 d filed:6/08, on hold 6/08 moved home:3/09 out again 5/09
seriously! it so annoying, as if i need anything else to deal with!
just got in, h called while we were out and just tried again...i let son answer...im amused that he keeps calling, if he was so angry with me, wanted nothing to do with us, he wouldnt call, he would just let son call him when he wanted to...
i do much better until the phone rings, its a reminder that he is calling from somewhere, not from work (still dont know if he is hiding a job) and it reminds me that he isnt home.
but overall, i really think im pulling it all together. i really do. i have my moments but im hanging in....im just so happy my credit is ok, i was approved on the apt with no help from anyone and thats a big deal because h couldnt get one right now! he cant anything unless he uses cash, and without a job, well, he doesnt have that either!
me: 31 H:29 Son:5 m:8 years in november t:10 years first bomb: 10/06 moved home: 3/08 out again 5/08 ow bomb: 4/08, since summer 06 d filed:6/08, on hold 6/08 moved home:3/09 out again 5/09
busy with more packing today and someone is coming to purchase my son's baby furniture. not a great price but its better than nothing and atleast i wont have to store it. i look forward to the day that i need to buy baby furniture again...
my son has a talent show at camp one night next week. i think i will send h a text telling him when it is and then it will be up to him to attend.
im still wondering if he is working somewhere off the books. not so sure how to find out.
me: 31 H:29 Son:5 m:8 years in november t:10 years first bomb: 10/06 moved home: 3/08 out again 5/08 ow bomb: 4/08, since summer 06 d filed:6/08, on hold 6/08 moved home:3/09 out again 5/09
PI or a friend, I agree. Otherwise, that's the point of being off the books, so no one knows. But he has to be doing something....do his parents have the ability to help him right now? My H has his own place (which he regrets now) and it's his parents who are paying for it. Does ding-bat have money?
i cant imagine his parents are helping much, maybe gas money but thats it. his porsche is in collection, maybe his other car too,i dont know.
he must be doing something and i need to find out. im sure it is off the books because creditors would find him if it were on.
if ding-bat means psycho ow, i dont think she has much, she must work off the books, maybe as a housekeeper or something. she used to work in his factory when she first came to this country.
me: 31 H:29 Son:5 m:8 years in november t:10 years first bomb: 10/06 moved home: 3/08 out again 5/08 ow bomb: 4/08, since summer 06 d filed:6/08, on hold 6/08 moved home:3/09 out again 5/09
h snuck into the house when i ran out for 30 minutes and took stuff, his tools and our paintings...
he was also out here with someone (hope to g-d it was not her) because he took his father's truck, so someone else is driving his car.
spoke to him on the phone, he is demanding money for the items i have sold. i told him no.
i told him its my right to sell and use the money to pay bills and to live because he hasnt supported us.
he said he needs money too. i said, so get a job.
he was carrying on so, he must still be mad about pyscho going to jail.
he was so nasty, said he has nothing to talk to me about, wants nothign to do with me,... i said, u called me...
how he wants to move on and is giving up on me etc.. told me i can have money when we divorce, i said, yeah, divorce? good luck with that...
he thinks everything is so simple, so cut and dry...
he thinks he can just decide now that he is done with me (as if he is ever done) and that its 1-2-3 we split everything.
i dont think so.
ive waited for this. i have documented everything i would ever need if it came to this. and he has no clue.
thank g-d i live in ny, a fault state.
he is at fault my friends and will not get away with it...
me: 31 H:29 Son:5 m:8 years in november t:10 years first bomb: 10/06 moved home: 3/08 out again 5/08 ow bomb: 4/08, since summer 06 d filed:6/08, on hold 6/08 moved home:3/09 out again 5/09
ok so im feeling bad that i changed our alarm code. but i had to. i dont feel comfortable running out to do an errand not knowing if he is showing up to take things while im out.
i must be stronger than ever to even change it and tell him i changed it.
but i feel bad. i never wanted this.
me: 31 H:29 Son:5 m:8 years in november t:10 years first bomb: 10/06 moved home: 3/08 out again 5/08 ow bomb: 4/08, since summer 06 d filed:6/08, on hold 6/08 moved home:3/09 out again 5/09