I'm glad you thought my text was the right thing to say and still be able to stay back and give her space.
She sent me a text and said it went well and she'll know more by Friday. I replied saying "I knew you'd knock 'em dead. Give me a call if you'd like to talk about it as I'd love to hear more about how it went."
So, there wasn't a call right away, but sure enough, around 7pm, she called to talk about how her interview went. I listened and did my best to validate and mentioned she's going to have some time to relax w/out her kids tomorrow and if she feels like grabbing dinner sometime to let me know.
That was it and again, I'll wait until she contacts me today and then I'll see how she's getting along.
When I talked w/Jody yesterday, she had me look for my old nots I had taken about the "stages" of a healthy relationship b/c they apply w/GF now. So, I did some digging and found what she was talking about and she's right on. See, GF and I are in Stage 1 where any negative emotions need to be diffused and reduced.
Now, GF's negative emotions are not about me, but about her X and how he's treated her during this entire custody process. She's so very angry at him that it is causing her to not be able to fully give herself into us. So, I'm looking at doing whatever I can to keep her emotions diffused on my end.
So, Jody and I talked about making sure GF had a lot of fun when she was w/me and that I also continue to cut things short and give her the "gift of missing me."
To me, I think we're in both places as we've got the foundation of friendship building, but her resentment of X has creeped in and she needs to purge that completely before we can continue. I know we are in the 2nd stage of friendship b/c she tells me that she really enjoys it when I'm around and she's very relaxed and comfortable when I'm w/her.
I don't put any expectations on her, so I know I have the friendship foundation building. The romance and chemistry is also there and continuing to build, but we honestly won't be able to progress there until she's been able to work out her anger w/her X...or at least until she's started the process.
So, thanks for the validation. It is always good for a man to hear what the other 1/2 thinks of his actions. I'm learning to be a better man every day and I'm hoping to continue to learn how to be a better boyfriend, husband, lover, companion, friend, confidant, inspiration, and cheerleader for the lady of my life along the way as well.
