Might be a good idea to let him initiate all the talk and action of separating.
Yes seek legal advice, prepare and protect yourself. You don't have to go into detail, but tell your lawyer this is not necessarily what you want. If that is what you have decided. Prepare yourself for the separation and go no further and don't mention the D word unless you want one.
There is a fine line here, but it is definitely walkable.(don't even know if that's a word lol) You must separate the legal stuff, from the personal. Don't get sucked into arguments over this, it only serves to fuel the fire.
Don't mention speaking to a laywer again. If he asks something your not sure of. Simply tell him you don't have that answer yet and you will get back to him. Then go do your homework and get back to him.
Check yourself, when it comes to your words and actions. Are they anger based? What are your true motives? Especially when it comes to your children. He will always be dad no matter what.
You have to somehow find a way to let this go and trust.
Be still and see what happens, and most importantly don't stop living for you and your children.
