Twice this week since my W bought her new car, she has asked me about who to go to get an remote car started installed. We have a friend that owns a car shop, but doesn't install those, and she has used that twice to try and 'ask' me about it.
However, she's trying to do this in a way she always has, rather than ask me for help straight up, or ask a direct questions it is always like: So, our friend doesn't install remote starters, I wonder who I can find to get that installed...
The old me would have jumped in and tried to take charge here, you know, you should go here, or call here, or get this one, etc, etc.
I have been taking a different approach this time, as she's not asking directly, just saying things like, Hmm, there's a few places out there, like best buy, some local shops, etc. Her response has been Well, I don't think I would want the guys at best buy working on my new car. I only replied Yeh, that's a consideration you have to look at..
I am not sure what she is fishing for, looking for me to take charge? Or just listen to her? At any rate, I figure she can figure this out on her own. I believe it's also the difference in the way men and women communicate. Odd that she's done that twice this week, and not done anything on her own to try and get it resolved...
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."
