back after 10 weeks of recovery and need some help

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Iwantit thanks. That is a good way to view it. The lovingly detach thing is tough with the kids around. Sometimes it looks like I am ignoring or disrespecting her. The kids are used to us sitting together or me giving hugs and kisses to all when I leave and when i get home from work. As well as saying ILY.

I think the waiting ILY sitch is I am no longer saying it. I say have a great one or something else when on the phone or leaving the house. I then hang up. I am not waiting for ILY as W put it. Before the bomb I called her on it and w said she was comfortable with where we were that she didn't have to say it every time we ended a call or left the company of each other.

My S called me on it yesterday. It made me very uncomfortable to try and explain so i chose to change the subject.