bluerain..."Why do you think that you are just now seriously considering this? Why not while it was going on, or 11 months ago..." I was too busy ,thanks God, (cooling down, fighting my anger, trying not to kill somebody) , concentrating on the changes my wife demanded. Fighting to keep our marriage alive. As a matter of fact I screwed up at the beginning on the identity of this individual and I confronted the wrong OM and the wrong OMW. I wasn't doing my invetigative work well. Not until about the end of December 2008 (4 months after the DD) when I finally had full information of who this guy was. I couldn't even concentrate on my work until about the end of February. But what difference it would make to experience this impulses of retaliation on the past, present or the future. This feeling will always be there for ever. I because I love my wife I'm committed to go forward. Sooner or later I will reach the point where all of this will be part of the past. My faith in God is now stronger and that's part of the changes I'm gracefully showing my wife and she's receiving it with pleasure.
English is not my first language. Sorry for those who are wondering about "communication barriers"
Steve, If by our 30th wedding anniversary next year in May 21th I still have the same resentment feeling belive me I will search for professional help. By now I feel confortable.
BTW. I'm thinking about giving my wife a surprise. We are not married by the church. I'm planning along with her sister overseas to prepare a family wedding ceremony in a beautiful small catholic church that we saw during our visit to Venezuela on vacation. What do you think...LOVE TO ALL PPL IN DB
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Me:52 W:50 M:30 D:19S:27 Discovered EA:08/08 denied W insisted on D+ILYBNILWY:08/08 Exposed wrong OMW:10/08 Found exact OM's ID 2/09 Expose OMW son, not sure OMW knows yet 25 months after still a rollercoaster