That's what were all doing to some extent.... I right here with you.
Good night
M (46) W (45) S (17) D (14) D (6) T (20) M (17) Seperated 3/2009 . When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze." Isaiah 43:2
That goes for all of you as well and will be returned.
Sorry to do this (pointing back to business)....
I honestly need some reassurance.
It feels so callous not to help my W.
I have no idea how to approach her. Although I suspect the answer is "don't".
I have this horrible feeling that not doing any of the above is making things worse by getting my W into a state of anger. Revenge and hitting back, especially under the guidance of the "friend" is hitting my PMA (slightly). I have to be honest and say I feel a little worried.
The "friend" is certainly stirring things up. In that SMS flurry, my W said something like - "and you bought cloths" - that HAD to have come from the "friend". Pity she didn't give my W the full story. The cloths were 2 x t-shirts - total cost R52 (about $8). Jeez - that woman can stir.
So - just wait? (yes). Work on self (yes). Stop worrying? (yes).
Reassurance and any more tips gratefully accepted. Uncomfortable feeling.
Take a look at my thread I've been on a roller coaster for almost 2 weeks.
Everyother day I'm met by the mother of my children that I know so well.
Then I watch here turn into an alien life form right before my eyes and back again to the mother of my children.
Today this happened inside of an hour and a half.
Stay the course.
It appears that you are in a delima about financial assistance for your W as well. I have been hearing this a lot lately myself. I unfortunately have to deal with her when she comes to see the kids if she shows up. I keep telling her, it is her choice were this way and she spews about the court saying this and that. I told her do what you have to and have fun at it.
Stay strong and keep stoking that fire with your poker.
M (46) W (45) S (17) D (14) D (6) T (20) M (17) Seperated 3/2009 . When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze." Isaiah 43:2
It appears that you are in a delima about financial assistance for your W as well. I have been hearing this a lot lately myself. I unfortunately have to deal with her when she comes to see the kids if she shows up. I keep telling her, it is her choice were this way and she spews about the court saying this and that. I told her do what you have to and have fun at it.
Thank goodness it's not just me
I wouldn't wish this on anybody!
Thanks for the info Brave.
I'll keep strong knowing that others are in the same damn leaky boat.
I was reading through your posts and will say a couple of things...
I am proud of the choices you have made thus far...
I agree that it feels callous...I feel the same way however just remember this is for your/my protection...
You don't have to demonstrate the changes to anyone - They are for you...
If people come around, they will notice the changes...
You aren't making changes to prove a point, you are making changes for the new Mac, your new life with or without her.
Here is a song for you - For all of us...
Lynyrd Skynrd Broken bones, broken hearts Stripped down and torn apart A little bit of rust I'm still running
Counting miles, counting tears Twisted road, shifting gears Year after year It's all or nothing
But I'm not home I'm not lost Still holding on to what I got Ain't much left No there's so much that's been stolen
Guess I've lost everything I've had But I'm not dead, at least not yet Still alone, still alive Still unbroken I'm still alone, still alive I'm still unbroken
Never captured, never tamed Wild horses on the plains You can call me lost I call it freedom
I feel the spirit, in my soul It's something Lord I can't control I'm never giving up While I'm still breathing
I'm not home I'm not lost Still holding on to what I got Ain't much left No there's so much that's been stolen
Guess I've lost everything I've had I'm not dead, at least not yet Still alone, still alive Still unbroken I'm still alone, still alive Still unbroken
I'm still unbroken Still unbroken
Like the wind, like the rain It's all running through my veins Like a river pouring out into the ocean
I'm out here on the street But I'm standing on my feet Still alive, still alone Still unbroken Yeah!
I'm not home I'm not lost Still holding on to what I got Ain't much left Lord there's so much that's been stolen
Guess I've lost everything I've had But I'm not dead, at least not yet Still alive, still alone Still unbroken I'm still alone, still alive I'm still unbroken I'm still alone, still alive Still unbroken
I'm still unbroken I ain't never going down I'm still unbroken Ohh
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
