I went to see my MC alone yesterday, and I was talking to her about the same thing - as in, do they really realize what it's going to be like when the marriage ends? The friendship is not going to be there. The willingness to cooperate is not necessarily going to be there.
Do what you need to do to protect yourself and your kids! I won't be filing separation or divorce paperwork myself, but I will file for support if my H starts slacking on giving me money.
My H moving out was probably one of the best things that could have happened to me in our situation - it completely removed him from the equation and I got to work on me without having him around as a reminder of the situation, and it felt much more like I was doing it for me.
Me - 30, H - 32 T - 10, M - 6, D - 1 DD#1 - 4, DD#2 - 2 on/off OW 4/09 - sometime Summer 2010 (Told me about OW 4/10) Separated 6/11/09, divorced 8/4/10, trying again 9/2011
