I'm just really worried that if I don't get a separation agreement together, I will be caught off guard by him. I'm not willing to do that financially. I feel like I have to figure out a way to protect myself right now. He seems to be hell bent on his decision to seperate & begin to work towards a divorce, BUT when I asked him where he was going to go, he said I don't know, it's not like I have all my ducks in a row or anything. Then I mentioned something my attorney had told me & he said - you have an attorney? (all shocked). I said yes, when I see someone putting no effort into a marriage I am going to protect myself.
He kept going on & on about how he doesn't want to screw me over. He wants to be totally fair, just do mediation. He likes me, I am a good person & a good mom...BUT I'M NOT GOOD enough to keep your marriage vows! It's like what the heck does he want in life?????
He wants to respect each other and basically play all nice for the kids. Yep, he seems to think we will be just like Demi Moore, Ashton Kuther & Bruce Willis. All one big happy divorced family!
He's being nicer to me now than he has in all the time I was busting my @ss DBing. I don't know if the pressure is off bc he finally said what he's been wanting all along, if he feels guilty or if he wants me to be amicable during the D.
Hope,
I don't want to seem like I am making light of what you are dealing with here....
You could cut, copy, and paste what you wrote here and it would fit almost exactly to 95% of the stories written here over the years.
And MANY of those stories were of marriages reconciled.
This is MLC script in so many ways..Except one.
YOU bought everything he was selling to you.
You ,by now, should understand that this is part of THEIR journey. And NOTHING you do or say will change this.
Patience darlin....
Yes, protect yourself, but don't sell the farm just yet....
