I think that you should let sleeping dogs lie here my friend. You have already won, and your wife chose YOU!

Why do you think that you are just now seriously considering this? Why not while it was going on, or 11 months ago, immediately after it ended between them? Do you think that it could have to do with the fact that its been a year since the A ended? That maybe this anniversary is weighing heavily on your mind and thats why you are so focused on this? I think that this will pass. This desire to punish the OM can will and should be allowed to pass, when you start to think about it, push it out of your mind. This does nothing constructive for you, it does not help your M, or your sitch. Let it go.

I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...