I have been getting some better sleep at night, but it is still rough. Usually wake up right around 6:30 every morning, no alarm needed anymore. It is kinda nice though, definitely better than the 3 and 4 o'clock mornings were. And as far as the fog goes, I think that a full on inversion has settled into her head. I keep getting the "poor me " attitude. I think that it is going to get worse as the move in date approaches and shortly after moving into an empty place alone.
Maybe the lord is coming to my time zone between 6 and 7 though. Wish he would visit her though and not me so much. She is dire need of it.
There's a definate possibility he is visiting you and I since quite possible we haven't changed enough ourself.
Complete and total detachment so that he can handle the whole sitch himself. (Very hard with the kids.)
We should start asking him for more help in respects to changing ourselves instead of W and others(a little pray for the W won't hurt).
I think once were to that point where anything our W says(with out them being disrespectful to us), its like no problem, what ever, and by the way have a nice day.
The day they can no longer get a rise out of us. What do you think?
M (46) W (45) S (17) D (14) D (6) T (20) M (17) Seperated 3/2009 . When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze." Isaiah 43:2
Sounds like very good advice and I can not disagree with any of that. One problem my W is having major issues with me about is religion. We had quit completely over the last year, and when all this started, I found a new church to take the kids too and have started attending regularly. Without her of course. It is eating at her, major 180 for me.
One problem my W is having major issues with me about is religion. We had quit completely over the last year, and when all this started, I found a new church to take the kids too and have started attending regularly. Without her of course. It is eating at her, major 180 for me.
This is also something I'm dealing with. We started going to a new church recommend by a friend about 2 months ago, W attend once after D 14 cut herself. She was not a happy camper. But she grills D 6 weekly about her attendance, D 6 loves it. We had not attended as a family for close to 8 years and that was only for a short period of time.
I slept till 5:30 today but went to bed at 1pm. I need to try and get to bed around 10pm. See if that changes anything.
M (46) W (45) S (17) D (14) D (6) T (20) M (17) Seperated 3/2009 . When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze." Isaiah 43:2
My w issue is that her and I had both stated for the most part that we both felt fairly atheist over the last year. But the way I see it life changes create life changes. She is the one who placed me on this path.
My sleep has definitely been improving, although I woke up this morning around 2 to the tv. I had fallen asleep on the couch. Moved to my bed and actually needed my alarm for the first time in about a month.
My sleep has definitely been improving, although I woke up this morning around 2 to the tv. I had fallen asleep on the couch. Moved to my bed and actually needed my alarm for the first time in about a month
Good for you. I actually sleep better when I have no interaction with her.
I think I'm just agitated about all her threats and constant bombardment regarding me supporting her financially. She seems to be hooked on filing a legal seperation to fast track some sort of payment.
She knows my business is down and doesn't have any regard to the fact that I pay all the household expenses, even her cell and car insurance. What little is left over I need to harbor for the kids expenses.
I guess me and D 6 takinng off for a few days most likely chaps her back side but who cares.
M (46) W (45) S (17) D (14) D (6) T (20) M (17) Seperated 3/2009 . When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze." Isaiah 43:2
. I actually sleep better when I have no interaction with her.
I think I'm just agitated about all her threats and constant bombardment regarding me supporting her financially. She seems to be hooked on filing a legal seperation to fast track some sort of payment.
She knows my business is down and doesn't have any regard to the fact that I pay all the household expenses, even her cell and car insurance. What little is left over I need to harbor for the kids expenses.
Oh yeah - can relate to that!
W's/H's grow up. Realized what you have chosen to do. Not us - you! There are consequences.
Thanks for looking in. I'm just worn down today and really need to get some rest.
I'm a little angry also. I should go work out and release some of it.
Keeping the faith.
M (46) W (45) S (17) D (14) D (6) T (20) M (17) Seperated 3/2009 . When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze." Isaiah 43:2
Just got a phone call saying W picked up a OTC D kit to start filling out. How's that for adding to the day, couldn't wait till I get home to drop that one on me?
I'm reading this book by Wayne Dyer...Excuses be Gone.
And there is a qoute in it that goes like this:
"In order to live the life that's waiting to materialize for you, you simply may have to let go of the one you have been planning for years. If you want to be given everything, give everything up. While it may sound strange to you now, the thing you surrender to becomes your power."
This was eye opening to myself the first time a read it.
I feel that may be the path I need to take????????????
Anyways PMA, I'm taking D 6 swimming right now.
I'll take at you later!
M (46) W (45) S (17) D (14) D (6) T (20) M (17) Seperated 3/2009 . When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze." Isaiah 43:2
