I just finished reading your sitch. Wow ! You mentioned the IE is where you lived a while back. I'm wondering if we weren't neighbors at some point. SOCAL ?
M (46) W (45) S (17) D (14) D (6) T (20) M (17) Seperated 3/2009 . When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze." Isaiah 43:2