Well, tonight is definately not the night! I got home from the gym and barely got a hello. She was getting ready for bed. I figured why not turn in early, too? As soon as I came into the bedroom and began to change, she asked why I was coming to bed and not staying up. I asked if she wanted me to wait a bit until she falls asleep (I snore). She said no, just that I usually don't go to bed before 10. I took the hint, and am now sitting on the couch watching TV. Oh well. Probably better, because now I have the memories of the old days in my head eight now!
Whoa...all she did was ask why you were turning in earlier than usual and you got a full board rejection feeling from that AND went downstairs? Yikes...now I can say that my gut tells me she was wondering why b/c she thought it MIGHT mean you wanted to ML OR it MIGHT mean you were tired from work or not feeling well OR wanting to have R talk...OR, OR OR....a lot of stuff.
I would not have made a ML comment but would think a stronger statement like "is there a problem with me coming to sleep now?" would be in order. As for the snoring, that's nice that you asked her, BUT YOU ASKED her about that and she said "No you don't have to wait" but you did anyhow and went downstairs... wth?
Look- I get that you are confused. But you did some negative mind reading tonight about her question to you, and when she point blank answered your question and told you that YOU could in fact sleep then and there, and she didn't ask that you wait awhile or come back later, you chose to do so anyhow. Hmmmm, how much does she have to show you? I mean IF she did want you to pursue, you are not making it easy on her. You are making it clear that she has to positively respond to your very first possible (AND NOT OBVIOUS) sign that you might be interested. And if she doesn't, you bolt out of there.
There are a lot of ways to look at the interaction as to what she may have meant, felt or wanted, but what she SAID was not unreasonable, and what you DID, was to leave...I'm not feeling so hot about that choice. Sorry...
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