WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 11

[confusedinpa]

I think she's very unsure now but believes MAYBE you and she can work this out. But she's not going to pull that trigger yet.....and really, you don't want her to tell you yes, just to have her back out. And really, in her mind, like my H's, I believe they are working on it and there's less pressure to work on it and not officially announce it.....know what I mean?

Almostdonebut...

I really hope you are right but I really am not optimistic. I'm not giving up hope nor am I being negative/down about this. Just trying to be realistic and temper any further hurt

I am actually more worried about how my boys are doing with this roller coaster ride of a situation. It seems like my wife is concerned about it to the point of trying to make up excuses to minimize the impact to the boys. I don't buy into her BS on it, but the fact that she is trying to lie to herself, me and the boys about it, must mean its on her mind.

Right now she says she is so done, but I do see how her actions either are conflicting to what she says or she is doing to try and hurt me or she is trying to maintain "control" or she is just trying to be "nice" or ?????

I really don't know. I don't obsess or try to mind read. I did wind up asking her yesterday as I didn't want to guess nor over-react to what she said.

I know she is working on something. What I just have no idea....