I just want you to know that my h said the exact same words to me, "I like you, you are a good woman, and a good mom. I dont want to screw you over." Get it, its the script.
You should absolutely do what you must to protect yourself financially. That has nothing to do with standing.
Listen, you are reeling from all this. It is a shock to the system. We just dont want you to have kneejerk reactions that you will regret later.
So, speak again to an attorney. Say very little to your h. He is being nice because that is what they do. You told him you spoke with an attorney, now he moves closer.
He doesnt know what he wants. Of course, he feels guilty, relieved, angry, and all the other emotions, too. Because he is a freakin' mess.
Look, take a deep breath and get it together. Nothing good comes of acting out of anger.
Take this a step at a time. Sometimes it is best to be still for a little while.
