Well, W and D8 came home right after I wrote this above..
Man, W started talking about d8's art class they were at, and again, it was the old her.
Then, after I put d8 to bed, and started watching tv, out comes the cold/distant her, asking if I am watching tv downstairs. I thought that was obvious, but I say, yes, am I bothering you with it? She says no, she will just go upstairs and watch tv.
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I don't know what to make if anything of my W tonight.
She comes in to the bedroom late to get her pj's, while I am watching tv, and she seems irritated, but makes sure to not even look at me, nor speak to me, grabs her stuff, and heads for the door.
I make sure to just say 'good night' to her on the way out.
Do you think maybe she wanted to talk with you tonight and you watching tv put her off? Just taking a stab here - not trying to be a smart a$$.
It sounds like your W came home in a good mood and talked about your D's art. That's good.
What did you do after that? Did you retreat away from her to the tv or something else? She might have thought she was opening up to you, then, in her eyes (remember it's HER perception that matters here)you rejected or withdrew from her.
Maybe next time you are getting a good vibe from her, leave the tv off and make yourself approachable to her by maybe just reading downstairs or where ever she is likely to go. A lot easier to put a book down than turn off the tv - at least she may think so.
Oh, and you know to stop worrying about wwhat she thinks.
