I also want to say, that when you see your xw, be yourself. Be you, man. Not someone closed off, on guard or whatever. Just you.
Let her see the confident, loving, caring man you are. You are divorced. Really, what could happen?
It is always in His hands, always. That is what letting go is really all about. Leaving it with Him. It's also about letting go of the anger, the hurt and all the other stuff. Leave that with Him, too. He'll take it all. Because at the end of the day, holding on to all that serves no purpose. Forgiveness is really for us. It relieves us of a burden.
During the crisis, anger sometimes serves to propel us forward to change. It sometimes protects us and our hearts. But, now, it serves absolutely no purpose except to stand in your way.
This is a win-win situation for you right now if you really are of the right mindset. At the very least, it might be a beginning of a better relationship with the mother of your children. At most, it might be another chance. Either way, I know you will be ok.
So, see her with an open heart. Now, that doesnt mean that you should allow her to hurt it. But, be open to the possibilities that that allows.
And take it all for what it is. Try not to read into too much because then it becomes a burden.
As I pray for my h to find peace, I will pray that your xw finds her way.
