She wasn't ready to have sex and she freaked when she saw you going to bed also. I think that a lot of women are willing to try to stay in a M and to work at it, but for some, they can't get their emotions to follow as easy. It depends on the individual person, I would think. Doesn't mean she won't get to the place that she's ready to ML, but it takes her a little longer than you. Maybe you did not "intend" to do that, but you've already talked about how long it's been and that you are past "ready". Don't you think she knows that? But, I agree that she should not dictate when you can go to bed. Next time, crawl into bed as if she had not said anything and tell her you hope your snoring doesn't keep her awake b/c you're beat!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
