Unless her LL has to do with good deeds.....(don't think that is what it's called in the book, but my mind went blank).....I don't know that all that decorating is doing that much for her. I did not realize that we ususually treat our spouse in our own LL. For an example, my H's LL is good deeds, acts of service...(whatever)....and that is the way he shows his love for me. But that is not my LL, so it doesn't do a whole lot. My LL is intimate conversation or words of affirmation. Guess what? He doesn't do that. So, I don't get much words and he doesn't get much acts of service! crazy Just thought about that when reading your post.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!