Sandi2, Coach, Puppy and Gucci help!

[Bravehardt]

ANYONE

I'm having a rough afternoon.

Quick up date.

Sunday the W called in good mood, said she liked the talk we had Friday, please read above post for more details.

Monday W was suppose to see kid after work at 1pm, She never came by I had all of them home and was out working. She calls around 9pm and says that she didn't recall saying she'd come over(she sound terrible, she has a cold). We talked and she end up getting mad because I ask her to give me a bit more info on something she just said. Needless to say I was anaylizing her. She did remember our conversation from the night before, when I said Tuesday did not work out on our schedule for her to come by. She pressed on saying that she would come by anyways do I have a problem with this. I replied why do you need to hang out over here? You have a place of your own. she replied I have a room. Me thats your choice. Her I still have things there of mine. Me Wednesday is still good for us. She's aggitated and hung up.

So on Tuesday I sent here this text.

Good Morning. I hope your feeling better today.
I would like to thank you for talking with me last night.Please understand that when we communicate with each other we are talking about personal feeling that we have not shared with each other in a long time. A certain amount of frustration is to be expected from each of us.If you reveal something to me in anger it's ok. So much has been held in, just let it out.You won't ever be judged by me. we might not agree on everything but thats just a difference of our opinions.Our lives were on autopilot in regards to each of our perceived responsibilities to our family and work. As changes occured we never sat down and disscussed what we needed to do to help each other out. There are so many little tweeks we could implement to come to a new understanding with each other. We just need to here each other out and understand how the other feels. No ones right or wrong. Please meet me halfway.

No calls or text from W rest of the day.

Today the W start texting and calling around 10am and 12pm(whats going on don;t you want me to come over?). I don't respond till around 1pm. I simply reply come over.

D 6 and I are out shopping for items we need for our trip on Sunday. We arrive home around 2pm the W is there. D 6 start telling her about the trip were going to go on and all the new things we purchased. I say hello, W says hi. I say you look tired, she say the cold has drained her.

I go in my office and leave the two of them alone. I come out after making several calls, and ask W how long she'll be staying because I could take care of a couple of things. She ask me what time i'd be back. Around 6pm, she says she needs to get some sleep because she works at 2am and she had talk to D 14 about picking here up after band practice(never telling me that she would or would not pick here up, Iwas expect D 14 to call after 4pm for a ride).

The conversation turns into W asking so are you going to place x next week? Me -Yes we are. W asking what hotel are you staying at? Me- I believe hotel x (I did not make the reservation so I was told that hotel x was the most likely place we'd stay). W ask so is the room in your name? Me No I did not make the reservation. W so you'll get me the hotel and room # in case of emergengy. Me you have my cell# and text ability. W well you claim you don't get my text lately, did you get the one yesterday? Me -No.

W you set something up on you phone to only get certain ones then. Me- So then what time are we exchanging cars Saturday, were leaving early. W- I texted you a couple weeks ago that I was advised not to do this since I have no garantee that I'll get it back. But if you go down with me to AAA and quick claim it to me then it will be all right. (this stems from the irs situation back in February where I had to get rid of a boat and rv to settle with them, the W recently has told me she got screwed in that deal, she new exactly was we had to do).

So at this point she decides to change gears in front of D 6 and start in with if I can afford this trip I can afford to pay her. I let her know that this is not the time or place for this conversation. Me- again what time saturday will we exchange cars, she now retorts that she needs it Saturday night. W - says so why aren't you riding with others since the room is not in your name. Me because we agreed to swap cars three weeks ago. W -is it in writing. WTF(in my head). W gets flustered and decides to leave.

D 6 and I follows her out, she says she like to talk to me outside. So I go out. She then proceeds to go back to the seperation topic from last week. So she can lock in some financial support quickly. I need the tax returns and if you don;t give them to me I'll get them from our preparer, have fun with that I reply. I then respond by saying that this is not what I want and she need to own the sitch. Me-why waste the money on a seperation let get it over with. Her it will take a year and you won't have to pay me anything for that amount of time. Me- we could sit down like adults and figure this out uncontested and fast track it. W-For 400.00 a month I'm not getting screwed. I could totally screw you out of everything. M- if there is any equity left after the laywers, the equity in here is for the kids future. W- for mine and the kids future.

So she get in the car and I say to her what time are we exchange vehicles on Saturday. W- I let you know what works into my schudule, why do you need this big vehicle for 2 people, to tow the boat. Me -I'm not taking a boat, you seem pissed off that D 6 and I are taking off for a few days. W- no I'm not,last week you talk about giving me $400. a month and I said I'd take it right now. But you said you don't have it. Me I said that based on the formula use by an attorney it was some where around $400. W- if you would have given me some money when this started we might not be in the position now. Me -so the fact that your standard of living has declined as well as the families justifies you demanding financial asistance from me. I did not ask for this sitch see ya I'm DONE.

She drove off in a huff, she came over to hang out with D 6 and it lasted for 30 minutes.

The W ended up picking up D 14 from band practice(niether one call me for a heads up). D 14 came in and said that mom wanted to talk to me.

So I went out to see her. She said well I think I know why you don't get most of my text. Your only programed in my phone under ICE. When I punch in your name I guess it goes no where(she had this phone for a year). I just looked at her and said oh. Closed the door and walked away, she says I'll see you later.

Boy I feel good getting this of my chest.

Anyone can chime in Thanks for listening.




Wow her memory only serves her in