Orich - I've lived that dilemma and I can tell you from personal experience that not initiating is lose-lose. Yes, the rejection hurtsw like hell if you try, but losing your marriage because you're afraid of rejection hurts a heckuva lot worse.
Not initiating doesn't mean you can't get rejected; it means you have a 100% chance of rejection because you're rejecting yourself before she has a chance to. At least if you initiate and you do it well/time it well, you have a chance of NOT being rejected. You have zero chance of success if you don't try.
Clearly from my own thread, I'm not great at understanding when to not pursue, but overall, not initiating was one of my/our problems rather than a solution.
Voice of experience.
Last edited by Dia; 07/30/0912:51 AM.
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