We didn't fight much, either, until I started to get the spew and knew something was wrong.

In retrospect, I wish there had been a middle ground. I think we needed to fight some. H had some real dramatics and I think if I had been more open, there would have been less need for them.

Trusting, I found it interesting that your H admitted that he was unhappy w/OW. I believe that if he could say that to you, he may wind up saying more at some point. Just be kind.


M: 16 years
Bomb 4/07
OW 20s long gone
Divorced 11/09
I remarried New Guy
Cooperative r w/X regarding D