We didn't fight much, either, until I started to get the spew and knew something was wrong.
In retrospect, I wish there had been a middle ground. I think we needed to fight some. H had some real dramatics and I think if I had been more open, there would have been less need for them.
Trusting, I found it interesting that your H admitted that he was unhappy w/OW. I believe that if he could say that to you, he may wind up saying more at some point. Just be kind.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
My ex's father and stepmother were in a motorcycle accident at 2 p.m. in the Ozarks.
They went with 2 other couples. My ex's father lost control of the bike and hit a truck head on in oncoming traffic. My ex's stepmother was killed instantly and his father is in critical condition. He has internal bleeding and so far had his spleen removed and his colon.
Ex and OW are driving on there way up.
Ex's father may or may not make it. Ex and I have been communicating the whole night with OW in the car.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
My children have lost another grandmother. Please pray for them. My inlaws were pretty horrible to me when all this came down. I don't know what to feel or how to feel about everything. I am numb. We had not spoken in 3 years. They had welcomed OW with open arms.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Trusting, I am so sorry to read about the accident this evening. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. I understand how you feel about the rift that was brought about because of your xh's behavior, etc.
Please take care of yourself and I think it's very nice of you to be there for your xh after all that he's done. Your behavior just proves what a classy lady that you are.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Trusting I echo everyone else's thoughts. I find it interesting that at his one hour of need it was really you he turned to for comfort. I think OW was only a part of it b/c she believes it is her right to be involved in these parts of your Hs life and he would have been too distraught to say otherwise.
((((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))))))))))
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Thank you everyone for your support. I love you guys. It was determined that ex's father was not paying attention for a split second and drifted into the other lane. Weather conditons nor alcohol were in play. I can't imagine he will ever emotionally get over this.
Ex has my son call me for updates. OW won't allow him to call me is my guess.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
