I personally agree with 25 that it is possible that she might want to ML, but not want to initiate. You could test it with a kiss or a hug when you think the time might be right. If she is not receptive, then you know. Or you could even discuss it. It sounds like she was a pretty sexual person and she might also be frustrated by the lack of sex. But she may not be willing to make the first move. My husband and I used to be able to break the ice by just one of us reaching a hand out and lightly touching the other in the bed. You do need to sensitive to her wishes.
