I don't know what I think about the changes he may or may not make. I guess I keeping holding on to what I have seen about him in hte past. He was not like this for the first 4 years of our relationship so I keep hoping that I can get back the man that I know was there and maybe could be again.

Maybe my hoping is a complete long shot.

I want to do everything that I can to save the marriage so if it does rumble and we do get a divorce, then I can look back and know in my heart that I did it all.

Spy...hope that you getting a new place and putting space between you two will help.

Me-31
Him-28
D1-9
D2-6
Married 5-06
Seperated 12-07
He filed 1-08
Reconciled 4-08 D dropped 7-08
Bomb dropped about H's activities outside the marriage 4-21-09
Filed for D 4-28-09
Trying to make a go of it 6-09