Hi Mnt, I hear what your saying and feel the same pain. I'm at the same mark, as you know, with time. I sometimes feel like I dont know what has worked anymore bc I have over thought everything. My new motto I keep telling myself is 'moving forward'...not moving on completely but letting go and moving forward bc its the only way to go. Also like you said focusing on me or in your sitch you and the kids. I think setting some ST goals to do with H is a good idea too. I think I need to do the same but feel lost as to where to start too. I guess you start with the easiest thing. Think about what goal you would like eventually and break each one down into so many pieces that you end up with a little 'bit' of a goal that can be worked towards in the ST.
If what you want is to rebuild a friendship what is the smallest step towards that?
Trying to be helpful there, man I know this is tough! Hang in there, hope you and the kids are doing well.
Me-27 H-28 M-2.5 yrs T-8.5 yrs No kids B 1/09 S 2/09
