I wasn't sure, I didn't hear anyone spinning on the pole.
I do hope things continue to provide you, TJ, and the girls a positive environment in which to live and be happy. Each will have their own vision of happy, and their own time. It is only natural you have your deepest personal desires for the future. But you also have learned and grown so much in this experience. Snodderly among others have been excellent navigators, but you have charted so much new water on your own instincts and profound faith.
These are the things you can share and teach to those who are in the early stages and clinging to calendars, timelines, and notes on the six stages. Everything is relevant. Every fact is a tool. And each detail gets analyzed to the last degree. But nothing trumps the one overiding single most important task we must learn and take - we must Let It Go.
Those three words should drown out all other sounds. They should pass through one's mind in a timeless fashion, as if an entire day or year could have passed as one concentrates on the sound.
There aren't six stages to Let It Go. There is no timeline. It is simple. But it becomes the most difficult and utterly impossible action that anyone victimized by MLC can face. It is the one thing that most will fight with every nerve and their very last breath. Yet it is possibly the simplest and most complete release one can find in the storm.
Even though you'd have been willing to try, you did not belong in a relationship with TJ during his time of wayward transgressions. He was not TJ. It would have been a hellish life with the alien; doing no one any good.
When we Let It Go, and add Turn It Over To God, we are giving ourself and possibly others, the most powerful gift on the planet. Even if one stops with Let It Go, they have made it to the finish line. What they do after that, is their life to live. They must accept the fact that this does not have to kill us. We all have to chose, and we alone can do so - how we will continue to live as a person among the people of the better world.
You learned well, took the blind leap of faith forward, and continue to experience the release as your journey unfolds. How wonderful indeed. Your actions have left you blessed. You've victimized no one. You've reached out and shared with others. You've prevented the crazyness from consuming you and those around you. You've earned every joy life has to offer. You will have it in a way that is right for you if you continue to Let It Go.
You're choosing not to limit the degree of reconnection you experience with TJ. You understand the comfort and joy that comes from the smallest glimpse of the old, the real TJ. Those moments will bring you joy. You also understand you must continue to Let It Go in order to have those moments, and a good life in between. Those are the lessons that need to be shared with the unfortunate victims of this madness. Thank you for doing that.
Now about that time in between, I was hoping we could get back to the part about someone spinning on the pole ......
