Hi 25, thanks for looking in. There is a possibility of MLC for her. But this is more than that, she has multiple family deaths within 3 weeks of each other while she was in her 3rd trimester with our second son. Also, severe mood swings during her monthly cycle, my taking her for granted, and bad communication skills on both our parts. I can't force her to change IC, obviously, so I don't know what to do about that. I continue to see our MC as an IC. (We stopped MC a few months ago) He is a Catholic Deacon, so at least he is pro-M. I didn't think about what you said about anniversary dinner. Every year we go to this place where we met. Maybe I should ask her to a different place, somewhere else she likes. I see your point as to why. OK, ML. I can't tell you what a struggle this has been for me. It has been months since we last ML, and I swear I am crawling up the walls. We used to ML daily when we were first together, and it only waned to 4 nights a week before the time of the Great Sadness. Working out only helps get rid of some energy, not all. I have given thought to this dilemma before. I don't know if I should initiate if she doesn't on that night. I suppose I will just try to read her. I don't want to screw anything up. I will confess that the thought of going outside the marriage has occurred to me, but so far I have been able to put down that temptation, and I think I will be able to as this journey goes on, with the help quite frankly of the Lord. She doesn't complain about feeling unattractive any more than the usual "I feel flabby around my midsection". My wife is an incredibly attractive woman who is in great shape. I used to tell her daily how beautiful I thought she was and how lucky I am. Even now I will give her a compliment with varying reactions. I would love to go on to her about how beautiful she is, but I don't think this is the right time. We are registered for the September 11th weekend of Retro. She went back and forth about this, but as of right now she is committed to it. Thank you again for commenting on my sitch. I need every opinion I can get in order to make the right decisions as I go on. One day the Great Sadness will lift, and regardless of which way my M ends up, I will be a better person because of the people here.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
