Thanks for writing. I admire how long you've been standing for your marriage, a good example to all on us in a similar sitch.
My H is out of the house and enjoying life I think, I don't believe he has any regrets or if he does I don't know about them. He sees the kids whenever it suits him, but their r seems to be a bit forced, he's doing all the normal divorced dad type of stuff which may have been suitable when they were younger but is a bit inappropriate now. They need a dad they can call up for a beer and a quick chat not one who has to go over the top and arrange big events for them. It's a bit wearing for them. They do feel that he's let them down particularly since the disclosure of OW. I'm doing my best to keep out of their relationship it's between my H and the kids. Hard to bit my tongue and step back though.
My H is resistant even to being friends with me and I'm not sure what's the best approach. Im dark and don't contact unless necessary. just biding my time and hoping for the best - difficult for me I'm an action person. But I will continue as I know I'm doing the right thing although do have my days when I wonder why I don't just forget it and start again - it passes though
