Welcome to this section, if welcome's the right word. Sorry I've not read all your thread so I apoligise if some of the detail is wrong.
You're d now I think the best thing to do might be to regroup, concentrate on you and your kids (who do they live with btw) and work hard on gal and develop a pma. Easy to write but not so easy to do.
Then take a long, hard look at the marriage for what it actually was and not what you wanted it to be. Decide whether you want it back and if you do what would you have to change for your w to warm to the idea of reconciliation.
