Glad you are making a boundary about how she talks to you and treats you in front of your children. Since you have "explained" your feelings about this in detail...if she does it again, don't "ask" and don't go into the details of how you don't deserve to be talked to like that and how you don't talk disrespectful to her, etc. Simply tell her not to be disrespectful to you. Don't say it like a you are whining or complaining...but say it soft yet firmly. That is a good step in the right direction.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
