back after 10 weeks of recovery and need some help

[Doingitright]

Points taken. I am really thankful for the thoughts. If it wasn't for these posts from others I would certainly be crazy. Others can see things that I cannot because I am too close to the sitch. This is where I am struggling.
ThingsI am doing to be a better me. I go running every week day (New). Work out every other(N). Doing chores around the house and not waiting for W(N). Clothes, dishes, beds, bathrooms, kids.
I do all the shopping every week, always have. Take care of all the bills and car stuff, always have. Make dinner whenever I can (1 or 2 times during work week) always have. Always do meals on weekends, always have.

Started cutting work off at work and not doing any at home (N). Only 4 times in 4 months at home. Cut back on my hours at work 9 to 5(N). Was working 65+ hrs every week with 1 or 2 all nighters at home each week. Cut back on my work travel as best I could. Started to de-clutter the house and get rid of my pack rat mentality (still working on this). I am more calm (N). My fuse is a lot longer but this is an area I need to continue to work on.

Got back to what I love doing - gardening and yard work. Planned time with my friends 3 times in 3 months. Got healthy, lost 54 lbs in 8 months(new). Started going to DR's to take care of my health problems. Had two possible run ins with the "C" word. One dismissed the second is under watch for the next few months. Shared my health issues with wife as soon as I was told. Used to hide them thinking she had enough worries to deal with. Started making plans to dump the job I hate and move to another one so I can be happier (plans scratched due to bomb)

What I still want to work on…spending more time with the kids in a different way than now. Started taking them to the park and playgrounds away from house. Want to do more of that. Started doing projects like putting together model with my S and crafts with my D. Trying to do things with each “special day” just with one like boys movie night in the basement and D and me go to lunch and museum, book store or library.

Everyone can improve no matter what. I am just not sure what else I can take on right now. W has stated only one thing…get some friends and go out more so she doesn’t feel guilty when she goes out or away. I am doing that this Friday and I am trying to schedule more over the next few weeks in between business trips. But I have limited time with what I am now doing around the house and I still have to work. I want to start reading books but I know that will suck up my time from other things right now.
What was successful for others? I know there is no golden key but what changes did you like the most (in yourself)?