u sound so much like me! i stopped getting the mail for days because of feeling this way. but call. u know u didnt do anything wrong and u would know if it was about your house. anything else is not so bad. and again, if it were really something serious, they would have called u. i bet he stopped paying his car or something.
me: 31 H:29 Son:5 m:8 years in november t:10 years first bomb: 10/06 moved home: 3/08 out again 5/08 ow bomb: 4/08, since summer 06 d filed:6/08, on hold 6/08 moved home:3/09 out again 5/09
Hey G, hang on Sweetie. Knowledge is power, so it is best to know what it is about. Just take a deep breath and call. I know it must be so frightening, but, most times it is less horrible than we think.
I know you have been dealt some terrible blows of late, but, it really could be nothing earthshattering.
Either way, it has to be dealt with. So, dig in and I know you will handle it as you have everything else, with strength and dignity.
Thanks BM. I know I shouldn't be scared to call, but I am. It's always about how much more bad news can I bare. I just feel so weak inside to be presented with more news, problems etc, which I feel I have NO resolutions.
I have to work today, up most of the night. I will call later in the day and see what he has to say when I get up enough courage. He could just show up on my doorstep again this evening.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
Maybe call from work? You might feel more comfortable doing it with people around. Is there anyone sympathetic in your office who can be with you when you make the call?
did u find out yet? if it makes u feel any better, i have a certified letter waiting for me at the post office from a name i cant even figure out. i have no idea what it is or who it is from...this is why i stopped getting the mail lol.
me: 31 H:29 Son:5 m:8 years in november t:10 years first bomb: 10/06 moved home: 3/08 out again 5/08 ow bomb: 4/08, since summer 06 d filed:6/08, on hold 6/08 moved home:3/09 out again 5/09
I am so sorry for all the things you have to go through. I can relate to your being scared. Like you I froze and my heart beat like crazy when somebody rang the door bell.
I just hope for you that it is nothing bad.(((HUGS)))
Glam, What's the word? Was he trying to serve you papers regarding a divorce? I hope not, but that's the first thing that popped into my head. Why not have your h call them? If he's serving you w/papers, this may tip his hand.
Another thought...could the ow be serving him w/papers about the "child"?
Ok no word yet. H did not show in the am yesterday. I had to rush out and get s20 to help with the kids. Of course, I was concerned, shaking, had to go to work. Meetings all day that I couldn't get out of. How could I even focus at work. Wondering what happened to my h.
Later in the day he did call and said he was on his way to the house. He said he overslept. At least he was ok. I was so worried something had happened to him.
I haven't been able to reach the sheriff. I will try again later this evening. I am still scared to get that news whatever it might be. Another barrier to cross. God give me strength to deal with whatever it is.
I keep my personal life private from work. Nobody has a clue what I am going through. I am sure they just think I have this happy life with my h. I prefer it that way. I am a private person and don't want my dirty laundry out there. That is why when the sheriff comes knocking I am just like please make this all go away. He probably drove up in his squad car and advertised to the whole neighborhood. How lovely!
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"