He won't do that- "he paid for it all", remember? Besides, I can't afford it myself, he sure can. My salary is only about 1/3 of his, (this is my first professional job since the kids were born and I've been at this place for 5 years). Also- and this is important- I need to get away from him. He's not changing his views on recreational sex and I'm afraid of getting sucked back into the lifestyle. I'm feeling strong enough to get away now, I have to use that strength while I can, because he is real good at breaking me down.
For your other point- he can only claim abdonment in a divorce if it goes on for a year or longer, I'll be filing myself WAY before then if we don't reconcile. The main concern is having access to get anything out of the house later. And I'm not doing anything without getting a legal opinion every step of the way. Luckily that's real easy for me to do
