back after 10 weeks of recovery and need some help

[Doingitright]

Where does all this madness end?????? W asked if it is still on for her to go to school and for me to leave my job early every day for the next 6 months. On top of that it was cost some serious bucks. All this after the "there is no happiness in our future" and "it could be salvaged easily but you have to want to and I do not want to salvage it".

Funny thing is she could not even talk to me last night or say good night...just went to bed. I guess with her admission yesterday that she did not want to move forward with "us" she must have thought she wouldn't get the money so she asked again. She did it in such a tactful manner to...via text message

So what would other people do in this situation?
Would you give W the money and bend over backwards to accommodate the request?
Where do you draw the line between understanding and being a door mat?
Is it controlling to not want to do a loan at a time when we will be getting separated?
Is it controlling to say no we cant swing this now due to all that is up in the air?