Agree completely with the 5 LL's. It would really be interesting to have each of them complete the test separately and then compare and discuss.
The other concept that I really wish I understood are the ones I am now reading in "How to improve your marriage without talking about it". It goes into the differences between women (who respond to fear) and men (who respond to shame).
Women want to feel safe, and men want to feel strong. In the beginning it works because the woman feels protected and taken care of which in turn makes the man feel strong...
The downturn is after the initial romantic love starts to fade. The woman feels separated and starts to talk about the issues she sees (fears). This makes the man feel attacked and defensive of his ability to be a good husband / provider (shame) and he then withdraws or fights back, both of which exacerbates the woman's fears...
It is a vicious cycle, but can be broken if either party understands it and stops.
There are other areas, like the necessity to take care of yourself, the requirement for the person feeling the pain to bring it up and address it, etc, but I am not sure those can be taught in a weekend.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
