Cautiously Optimistic

[Done in VA]

Ok so maybe I was misleading in my previous posts. He wasn't just discussing separation, he was discussing D & how to handle that. I just feel like what is the point? I would probably feel differently if he just wanted to separate & spend some time in another room or on his own...I just feel like I have already wasted a year of my life w/this crap. I don't want to play all nicey nice while going thru D.

I have already worked on me. Part of working on me is realizing that I will never be done working on me. I do feel at this point that I could walk away, look at myself in the mirror & know that I did everything I could to save the marriage. I could thank him for what has happened. Do I want to be with someone who claims they were "acting" their way through the marriage? No - yes he finally grew some balls to say something about it, but no, they weren't big enough to work on the M for him. He's the one who's thrown in the towel.