K4D Rising #4

[mulesqb]

Other than not thinking about my W, I'm doing fine. I am working. I'm doing things I like. I socialize quite well when I leave the apartment. I am making friends. I socialize fine at work. I take care of my responsibilities.

While I miss my W its not stopping me from functioning and doing things. I am starting to do more than I used to. I am slowly getting through this. I'm not as bad off as I used to be. I am plenty able to go out and have a good time with other people. I leave W alone. I don't have the most active life in the world, but then I have never been the most active person in the world. But I am enjoying friends when I don't have my kids and when I do have my kids I enjoy my time with them.

Ok yes. It is hard to see W knowing the state of mind she is in. But I am keeping it together in front of her. And I do want any opportunity to put my best foot forward.

Stuck, we haven't talked about it recently.

Kevin

Ok Kev - this is a a start. You are showing some of the mindset in this post that all of us are talking about.

This is what I am going to ask you to do. Look at every post you have done in the last 3 days. You mention your W in every single paragraph. Even in the one I'm quoting above.

Can you start posting without mentioning her at all? We all know how much you love her. Nobody is questioning that, nobody is telling you not to. What we want you to do is start loving yourself.

Can you post to us things you do for you for the next few days? You are mentioning socializing with friends. That to me is the best thing you can do to start detaching. Become more sociable. Maybe that is a great 180 for you that you have not thought of. You say that you are slowly getting through this. Maybe you can push yourself to pick up the pace. Fill your calendar-for YOU. Become more of an active person. It's healthy, both physically and spiritually. Invite people out. Invite people over. Go bike riding. Go for a walk. Go jogging. Hit golf balls. Take your kids camping. Take your kids canoeing. Take your kids to the movies and for ice cream, with a friend and his/her kids. Have a BBQ at your house. Throw a party for the heck of it. Go bowling. Play tennis with someone. Visit a park or a museum you haven't been to. Take the kids to the zoo. Go for a boat ride. Go up in a hot air balloon. Go parasailing. Go fishing. Go to a crappy restaurant and eat junk and drink some beer. Play cards with the boys. Buy some new clothes. Get a different haircut. Go to the music store and try some different genre. Get a bluray player and start a new collection. Find some non-fiction books that you can pour yourself into before you go to bed at night - I recommend James Patterson and the Alex Cross series. Buy the Box set on some TV series that you though you would like but never had the time to watch. Take a cooking class. Buy the kids one of those toy planes that makes a lot of noise. Get a dog if you don't have one. You get the idea.

Enjoy Kevin. Find out there is more to him than meets the eye.

Try.

Strength and Honor.

Mules