Thank you Gypsy. Great perspective and advise. I do want respect and I wan't my feelings and my son's to come first. I don't particularly "want" a legal separation but I feel like I need to have it to have security because he drinks and drives and I could end up responsible for his debt if he were to go to jail. I will pick up the book. Reading DB and others has been such a help for me. And, I can always use the reminder to work on me. I seem to do really well with that until we start spending more time together and getting along, and then I just loose myself and it's all about him just like it was before. It's a daily practice!
