Ya, I think the money is a part of it. But, I think it is also becoming all too clear to him that he is about to loose his family if he doesn't get it together. The reality is...you don't get to keep your house and all your money when you have choosen to betray your marriage and family. I also think he is finally taking note that other men look at me and find me attractive, and that he has messed up a good thing. Our interaction is always good as long as I don't bring up any issues or concerns. If he is making effort and I mention anything of concern he retreats into a cave and is like "I thought things were going so well" and then it takes several days for him to start interacting again. I get that, but at some point I have to be able to say things that are on my mind, or call him on his cr**. Doesn't mean I don't recognize the effort he is making... which I tell him.
