You have no idea how good it is to see your flowing prose (that's not a rude word).
Very please to hear you're keeping a stiff upper lip
I actually feel like this -
Everything I'm doing I'm doing for our family, our home, our M and our lives. Notice that there's no you. You chose not to be included in any of that.
Get your head out of your a$$. You've already started saying I used to do this and I used to do that. Realize what you are choosing to do. Realize that you can change. Realize that you can choose to work and put this right.