No, you SHOULDN'T care. The only thing you should care about at this point is "doing the right thing," and selling things to pay off debts is right and proper.
"Mamabear" -- that's your motto going forward.
And yes, he will ABSOLUTELY sense your confidence. I assure you, he already has.
thanks puppy, this is all so really hard. everything is just coming to a head, the whole ugly situation...
do u think my charging her with harassment pulled them closer together? i dont regret what i did, i think she deserved to get in trouble but i hope i didnt help their relationship.
me: 31 H:29 Son:5 m:8 years in november t:10 years first bomb: 10/06 moved home: 3/08 out again 5/08 ow bomb: 4/08, since summer 06 d filed:6/08, on hold 6/08 moved home:3/09 out again 5/09
me: 31 H:29 Son:5 m:8 years in november t:10 years first bomb: 10/06 moved home: 3/08 out again 5/08 ow bomb: 4/08, since summer 06 d filed:6/08, on hold 6/08 moved home:3/09 out again 5/09
The drama of the situation - being arrested may bring them closer together short term. However, their relationship will fail. It is based upon a lie. She is using him.
thanks kerry, i sure hope so. must have been failing if she was even bothering to call me and taunt me and set me up.
i dont care if he comes back to me in the end, it just means something to me that they do not end up together.
i hate that he lied his way back to her, continues to lie and say he didnt even come home to me.
i hope it catches up with him. and soon.
me: 31 H:29 Son:5 m:8 years in november t:10 years first bomb: 10/06 moved home: 3/08 out again 5/08 ow bomb: 4/08, since summer 06 d filed:6/08, on hold 6/08 moved home:3/09 out again 5/09
Read up on your sitch. Couple things, her getting arrested may bring them closer short term, when my h ow got evicted it got them closer, so close that they lived together. But what, it didn't last. It nevr was going to and everyone knew it. Time is a great healer... time really does more than we ever can. But patience is sooooo hard.
Btw, just something I was going to tell you, I remember my sister telling me that when a woman is pregnant she really doesn't get arrested and sent to central booking, most times just a desk appearance ticket to appear in court. I'm not sure how they processed your ow but just a thought for you to consider.
Stay strong. I know how you feel. i'm so nervous in my sitch as well. I see my H's games but I just want to handle things with my head and not my heart right now but the heart is so strong of a muscle. I need to keep posting b/c I need all the advice I can get right now.
I will send you an email address for us to contact each other.
it has not been "well over 3 years" and i did not know about the affair until april 2008.
vicky, im hoping and praying she isnt pregnant, just another one of her lies and stories. he says no but i know i cant trust his answers anymore. the officer told me she turned herself in and he made the arrest and she posted bail. she has a court date in september. that is all i know.
me: 31 H:29 Son:5 m:8 years in november t:10 years first bomb: 10/06 moved home: 3/08 out again 5/08 ow bomb: 4/08, since summer 06 d filed:6/08, on hold 6/08 moved home:3/09 out again 5/09
MD....even if she's not pregnant today, she could be soon....that's kind of how it works and yes, doodles, she's trying to get pregnant....she has a child, whatever happens between she and H is irrelevant....she gets to say. Our federal government will not send her without her child.....her child is a US citizen if born here....she is using him and probably for this.
MD, have you thought about shutting him out completely and moving on?
