I am reading everyday and you have my deepest sympathies.
Just following on the latest theme here are a couple for you off the top of my head
You can lead a horse to water but ……
You can’t polish a turd.
You can’t keep a man in a marriage if he doesn’t want to be there.
Here are some Randon thoughts (cos I don’t spend too much time posting)
You said your latest time spent with H felt like pre bomb, well maybe he’s still engaging in pre bomb activities.
H doesn’t connect with you, Little H doesn’t pop up when you are alone in bed, may be his popping and connecting happens else where.
K, I remember about 18 months ago when someone showed some interest in you and you were nearly swayed and I was like “Noooo, don’t do it” well if the same scenario happened now I would not be shouting.
I would say now that H behaves in the way that he does cos he knows he can, cos hes comfortable in the status quo. Yes he loves the kids but he keeps you at arms length.
If I were to give you a piece of advice I would say take it to your deadline and if no change then move on, H may follow or he may not but you still have your life to live.
Hey guys, hi!!! Long time huh? Lan, so if I yell for help, you'll show up right? Thank you
No, I dont think he is involved with anyone else. Not physically at least. If he has started again talking to her or someone else, I dont know, dont think so, but you can never be sure..., that's one think I learned.
I am ok. I am not looking for anybody else. If "anybody else comes looking for me" (lol) I will think about it then... xxx K
Hi K, I haven't been posting on the boards but I've been reading when I get a chance. I'm so sorry your weekend trip wasn't what you hoped it would be. As everyone else has said, I also don't understand what may be going on in your H's head. You have been soooooooo patient. He is really taking you for granted!!! I wonder if he will have an "epiphany" when you file.
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
I don't think he's involved w/anyone either. Instead, I just think he's too mentally screwed up which has caused his emotions to go dormant. They are in deep hibernation mode for sure.
Hi addie, how is it going for you? Any progress? Are you happy?
Rob, I dont care to explain why he acts like that. I know it may sound as if I am lacking compassion but really I am not. I am accepting I cant help him, I cant do anything for him, he has to do it for himself. If he cant, then... K
I sold 160euros worth of jewelery yesterday and today, I have orders for another 45, and a very good client wants to see my new....pieces on Friday. Unfortunately, I have sold out. Need to work hard today and tomorrow....
