My goal is to reconcile not get back at her. I am very angry of course for what she did / is going, but I'm trying to control my emotions.
I am not recommending you run her over with your truck. Rather, DEMAND a little respect. And show her you are not willing to share her with another man. From your first post in this thread:
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On 6/3 she said she was going out of town to Wash DC to baseball game w/OM (the A w/OM from her work is back now
Anyway, she went and she hasn't called me or texted me since she left
Do I ask her how the game was or do I ask what they saw in Wash DC?
now a month and a half later:
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My wife called and she is on her way home after the long weekend
I tried to keep it short by saying "Okay, I see you in a few minutes then.".
If you are trying to be the "better option" here. IT IS NOT WORKING!!! You are not being the better option. You are showing her that you are OK with her extramarital relationship. Show me one woman that is going to respect and love a man with this behavior. Sure, its a perfect situation for her. You are providing for her financially, her house, her car etc. He is providing for her in other ways. Ways that she will never feel for you if you keep up this behavior.
WHAT YOU ARE DOING IS NOT WORKING!!!
She takes the weekend to fool around with someone else, and you tell her you had a decent weekend? what did that get you? She goes and gets boxes from the OM.
Originally Posted By: SavingMyMarriage
If there is anything else worth saying here that would give her something to think about or has a greater impact, I would appreciate feedback. I'll be reading a lot and doing something good for me this weekend... basically focusing on "ME".
Yes. I REFUSE TO SHARE YOU WITH ANOTHER MAN. And if you want greater impact, drop her, ignore her, quit reading and start to enjoy your life without her. Get strong, confident, and demand respect and in the process you realize that ...."nevermind".
I think you need to realize that women donot love men who are willing to allow them to love other men. Until you realize that and take back that part of your life she is going to continue to walk all over you.
