So, confusion on my poor wording in the reply led my wife to understandably think that what I would be looking into was "getting it on the market this week." though her "It's my house, too," in her subsequent vm was unnecessary. But I responded lightly in my email response: "Of course it's your house, too (sheesh) smile " Clarified by saying I should have worded it "This week, I will be looking into getting it on the market."

She called to ask why am I rushing all of a sudden, anyway? (?) I replied that I'm assuming her mediation-to-divorce route will take 3 months or so to finalize and I likewise assume selling will take about the same.

She wanted to know why I flip-flopped again about me moving out/letting her move back in in December, she doesn't understand, what changed in a month, "I already invited (darling pregnant D) to stay there with me during Christmas, now I have to make other plans, it would be easier for me to go through all my stuff, packing/discarding if I was living there for a while," etc.

I said, "I understand."

My answer in May ("No") was valid. My reconsidering/reversing ("Yes") right after she asked for D (while in MC office after MC unilaterally announce that "we're done, here") was almost under emotional duress. Sunday's re-reversal ("No") was my rational, considered return to valid. But I wasn't going to tell her that since that (or any other) answer would have been a waste of time.

So, just "I understand."

"Now all the King's horses
And All the King's men
Wait for their clarion call

Pride hears its voices
And fear wins again
And another cruel ending calls"

Mary Chapin Carpenter

And, oh, yeah: I had a great day, today.

Gardener

"My soul, be satisfied with flowers,
With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
In the one garden you may call your own."
Cyrano deBergerac