Your question takes me by surprise. I love him , I want him to come home, why would I server him with divorce papers? Everytime I thought I'd do something to push an issue, like for example, pushing him to make a choice between OW and me, staying or leaving, he choose the option I did not want to happen. Had I not pushed it that one day, he might have been home longer, and seen the changes in me, or at least to have some kind of relationship. Instead, I lost all opportunity, and I never see him. I don't play chicken any more. And, unless I mean it, I don't intend to file for divorce. I'd hoped MLC was real, and he'd work his way through it.