Trying to cope with H, IA/EA (was Newbie-1st post)

[Faith2010]

Ashlee, as you know, I'm as pro-"snooping" as they come, but not when you already know that he's cheating on you. Why are you torturing yourself?

Honestly I don't know what I thought I'd gain by snooping. I'm actually glad I did this time cause it just confirms what I thought. I guess there's also the fact that H keeps repeating he's not cheating, he's not having an affair etc... that I do it to prove to myself that he is. Okay, yes, lame excuse.

I think part of me does it for the reason Gardener pointed out:

Causing more pain for yourself or arming yourself with facts and dispelling suspicion? Only you can say.

Arming myself with facts. I want to have all the proof I need in case the M goes south.

Amen, Sister Ashlee.

Can I get another?