Gotta Keep Trying 2

[Dia]

My take - she's testing the waters. I can't tell you if I think she wants you to go or not, but I think the right impression to give is upbeat and positive. "That sounds fun. Yes, I'd like to go."

Don't let an inner insecurity (that you were an afterthought) get in your way. She was probably afraid to ask, didn't quite know how, etc. Make this as easy as possible for her.

[givingitmyall]

Thanks Dia.

My acceptance could have been more upbeat. I wasn't down. Just surprised. Wasn't expecting this tonight.

[Dia]

GIMA - re: you being confused. There's a long thread (Tips?) in the Piecing forum about surprising reactions once Piecing starts. Among those reactions are confusion, anger and resentment on the part of the LBS. Reading through that thread (I'm not all the way done yet) has been helpful to me in anticipating how H or I might react, behave, feel, etc.

Neither you nor I may be in Piecing yet, but it's a good read nonetheless.

[Gardener]

Gima, perhaps she felt awkward coming right out and asking and threw out the line about your calendar hoping you'd then initiate.

Said "she'd" take the kids instead of "we" for the same reason.

"What do you think about it?" Again, take the bait so I don't have to come right out and ask.

"Do you want to go with us?" Ta-Daaaa! Had to come right out and ask.

I don't know, but if this isn't "how WASs test the waters" it sure seems to me that this is how your wife tests the waters, and that's all that counts. I don't read it as an afterthought.

It's all goodness, IMO. Big change. You, sir, are doing it!

[givingitmyall]

That's a great idea Dia. Looks like I have some homework tonight.

[givingitmyall]

Gardener,

You and Dia are probably on to something when you suggested it is probably awkward for her to ask me. I can see that now. What else should I have expected?

Ok, I am just gonna be cool, go with the flow and make this as easy on her as I can.

[givingitmyall]

Now she has asked about me adding her cell phone to my plan to make it a family plan. Her job was paying this but that ends Thursday.

Who IS this woman who is occupying my W's body?!

[JKL2009]

Certainly sounds good. Keep on right on what you are doing, it is working!

[iwantittowork]

Wow GIMA, these sound like positive signs, it's hard to tell I am sure.

Heck, who wouldn't be confused when you stop to think about them all. I like Dia and Gardeners thoughts on this.

[givingitmyall]

Thanks JKL.

Only time will tell. Hope all is progressing with you.