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[Jayce]

You guys aren't going to believe this. We still have discussions about H's LD, feelings about sex, not talking, sharing, etc. I remind him that 8 months to read one book didn't exactly shout "I'm committed to working on this." He finally finished 'The New Male Sexuality' & 'Holding onto Your N.U.T.S.' then I went for broke & gave him 'She Comes First.'

This weekend had a meltdown & got half a dozen books off the stack and spread them out on the ottoman. Told him I did all the research, got books at library, bookstore, Amazon. Read every one of them & am working on another. Bet I've read 20 books. He'd rather watch TV than read one, ML, talk & on & on. Asked him what frequency he'd like, once a month, 3 months, 6 months, a year? Sorry, drifting & ignoring stuff not a good way to work with me.

Went trail riding Sun. Got home..he's 94 pages into one of the books! Guess which one...SSM!! He says he got more out of that one so far than the other 3!!! Felt I asked him to read the others so he'd feel inadequate, ignorant, etc.

I'd hoped those books would help him think more about his feelings about sex, sensuality, etc. Never dreamed he'd read SSM.. Figured it'd make him think I was pointing a finger at him. (Wonder if he'll ever read SSW).

He also said he thinks the problem is in his head & he'll go for counseling. I'm looking for one in our PPO. Emailed with one who says he needs to see a urologist also; check the big T, etc. OOOO boy. He didn't get mad tho.

Uh, did you guys know Schnarch charges $6K, his wife $3500? Plus air fare, 4 days in CO. Yipes!
Jayce