Slowly getting better?? - WAW advice still needed.

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Hey Sam... I'm just headed out to Happy Hour! Yay!!

You got it exactly right about the validation... This isn't just you being a jealous H, or partner. This is a R (no matter how close, etc...) that is taking away from the mending of yours, and her attention gets diverted, and she gets "saved" by someone else, not you. (kind of run on sentences... I've had a pre-happy hour glass of wine, sorry)

I think I told you this before. You need something to shake her up. How about an invitation into the home of a f*cked up divorced family, with kids being fought over, a new boyfriend/girlfriend getting YOUR time w/your kids, an atmosphere she doesn't approve of, etc...?? I'd like her to talk to my D18. Her Dad and I divorced when she was barely two, and his house was always chaos and destruction. She'd cry and cling to mine and my H's legs when she'd have to go... And, believe it or not, we co-parented beautifully until my H came in the picture. He couldn't handle another male in her life.

Just an example of a shake-up.

She needs a shake up.

I'll think about it for you. Not sure how much I can offer, but I know she doesn't sound right. She sounds too needy, self deprecating, and really, not at all attractive. I'm wondering if you're "there" yet.

Chin up, Sam. You're an amazing H and even better Dad for this fight.